The fact that he s not gay
I remeber one time he was being dry humped by a freind talking to me, but he said it was a joke. He also told me his buddy is a "power bottom. Spoiled me with his attention then I had life changing event. It varies.
If you are relatively new to online gay dating you
Coming out of the closet , often shortened to coming out , is a metaphor for LGBT people's self-disclosure of their sexual orientation or of their gender identity. More helpful, I think, would be to interview both partners from the same mixed marriage, anonymously of course, but I can appreciate how difficult it might be to locate them.
So I feel pretty broken now. The word gay has become so synonymous with bad that people often feel uncomfortable using it correctly. If this man could maintain sexual desire for her over time, enough to conceive two children there must have been SOME sexual desire in the relationship and that is because the man was bi-sexual with a "preference" for other men perhaps but sexual desire when being intimate with either sex.